>>1145972
I agree with most of what you said
When I was talking about that giving gifts part I meant mostly my core family, especially my parents
They have been denying themselves stuff for 25 years to keep me alive and well, so they have a lot of things they are missing or need replacing that they just don't out of habit
That makes it easy to pick out stuff for them, just by staying around for a few days and helping them cook for example
I definitely don't go out of my way to fetch gifts even for extended family, nevermind friends.
When I go celebrate with my cousin I'd rather just buy some fancy food/drinks that we can have together an I know I didn't give him some useless crap and since we then eat it together it doesn't create this expectation of getting something back.